Grief…It’s Complicated

Welcome to another Tuesday Talks blog. I’m so glad you are reading this. My hope is that you find peace in my words that brings light to your soul. I’m going to speak about grief, but it is a different this time. If you have never experienced the death of someone, count yourself lucky. This is something we all will go through at some point in our lives. In saying that, there are other types of grief. The loss of a friendship or marriage, a job or your once healthy body. We grieve “what could have been.”

At birth, there is no instruction booklet, just like at death, there is none as well. There are literally millions of books and articles written on both of these subjects. All offering helpful tools and mantras, but they are not tailored to your exact experience nor situation. As you read, please remember that I am not a trained therapist or doctor. However, in the 10 years of being an Evidential Medium I have been in front of all different types of grief and will explain what my particular experiences have been. Some who just lost someone, their passings was a few years ago or many years ago. No matter what stage of mourning you are in, you are looking for reassurance. You want validation that your loved one is ok and you are longing to hear from them.

But there is another type of client I come across from time to time. They are the ones discovered something about the one who passed that is unsettling. They, too, are looking for answers. You may be the one who left had no idea the person was struggling with an addition or depression. They wonder why they did not notice what was the cause of this action.

In these particular cases, the 7 stages of grief can roll in several times a week or even all in one day. There is shock, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance and hope. Processing grief is complicated. It is different for everyone.

I remember so blatantly hearing stories about my mother at her funeral. Stories that made me think, “I didn’t know that woman.” I didn’t know that part of her because I was her daughter, not school mate, co-worker or even cousin. We have different experiences based on the relationship role we played in each other’s lives. There was an article I read once that explained that no one is raised the same way. I often thought, I raised my kids all the same, but they are all so different. It pointed out that at the time of your first child’s birth, you had never experienced being a parent. You were younger, maybe finances were different. The second child comes along, you have some experience on what to expect and you are more comfortable at parenting. The same with additional children. We are all at different stages in our lives when we experience things. For my children, they had a different type of grief, because this was their grandmother. I experienced the loss of my mother. Because of the role she was to them, the time in her life as well as theirs. Think about it, if you are a grandparent, the things that may have stressed you out with your children are not as stressful when it comes to your grandchildren. With age, most of us grow more patient, we have a better listening ear. I’ve been called on the carpet several times with my children saying, “you would have never left us do….” See the difference? Grief is the same.

These are “normal” circumstances, but what if things come out after their passing that you had no knowledge of? Double grief, it that even a thing? All of a sudden, what you thought was true has also died. Sometimes, it can be healing other times, not so much.

A healing experience: I had a client a few years ago that hadn’t seen his father since he was 7 years old. No one in the family ever spoke about his father. He had no knowledge of where he was or what happened. All he knew was that his father left him. When he came to me, I offered several pieces of information that when I asked if it made sense, his response was maybe. I remember the message came in very strongly and I knew I was not wrong. I mentioned that I was hearing cold caste, and I remarked how sorry I was to inform him that his father has passed. I questioned what 7 years meant, to which he informed me his father left him at that age. This was unlike most readings I had done at this point. I gently explained that his father had gotten mixed up with some unfavorable people who threaten to kill him (the son) if he did not comply. I mentioned a name, who had more information. Did he know of anyone with this name? His uncle’s, (his father’s brother) name was this name. I suggested that he speak with his uncle to receive more information about what had happened. I also mentioned in New York. In this case, here was a man, several years later finding out that his father did not run out on him. Instead, his father saved his life. He later came back and told me about the conversation he had with his uncle.

I had a mother come to me who was in disbelief of the coroner’s report. The cause of death was a fentanyl overdose. When her son came in, he apologized for taking a drug that killed him. She had no idea that he had ever used any form of drugs. This was a man who was very health conscious, an athlete in school and had plans for collage. This did not seem like your typical person who would abuse drugs. The mother needed more than a coroner’s report; she needed to hear it from her son.

Sometimes, those who choose to leave this earth before their time are able to hide their depression. They are the life of the party. Always laughing and it is hidden until it is not. Some choose to suffer in silence because they do not want to burden their family with their fearful thoughts.

The person who suddenly passes but it is later discovered that they had an illness. They chose not to share the news with anyone. You may have noticed they had lost or gained weight or were sleeping a lot, but it didn’t seem abnormal to the point of discussing it. You may feel a missed opportunity to have a conversation with them?

Some unknown situations are easier to maneuver than others, but they are different for everyone involved. The stages of grief can be a never-ending loop in your body.

One client came to see me was so distraught at the loss of her husband, which is normal. However, when her husband came through, I thought I had my wires crossed and was misunderstanding his message. I remember saying to her, I’m not sure where this is going but I’m going to say what I am hearing is that ok? She agreed. I gingerly tried to give her the message as gently as I could. I did not want to come right and say what he was telling me. I described the message from her husband. He told me to express how sorry he was for the surprise appearance of someone at the funeral home. That was as graceful as I could convey it. She burst into tears and told me while preparing for his service, a woman and her two teenage children walked in and informed the funeral director that she, in fact, was the widow of this man. My client had found out that her husband had a second family that she was not aware of.

Things were found in the home of a father of a friend that was very unsettling. They found several photos of young people in compromising positions. Their father was writing letters and receiving photos from underage children. How do you even begin to wrap your head around something like this? You’ve physically lost your father but now you’ve also emotionally lost the connection you had with him.

A family came to me a few years ago and their mother came to say, the secrets you are searching for will only harm the family. Let it go, do not dig for answers anymore. They wanted answers that I could not give them. Spirit gives you what you need not necessarily what you want. This mother was not going to tell me something to convey to them that could cause further damage. The family, of course, curious to find out asked me to find out. I had to disappoint them by saying spirit will tell you when you are ready, if they want to tell you. I cannot force the answers out of them.

This type of mind-bending grief, betrayal or just curiosity about what the big secret may be is hard to imagine. It is heart-breaking to me that sometimes; I am not always able to offer the healing they are looking to receive. Situations like these are few and far between, thankfully. If they were not, I may change my thought process of offering readings.

I can offer love and understanding in these unusual situations. I gently explain to the client to try to focus on the person you knew. The life you had and moments your shared. This is the person who meant the world to you, this is the person you are grieving. You did not know or could not control the actions of things you had no knowledge of. Give yourself permission to feel all the feelings.

Allow all the stages of grief to come to the surface. Not only do you feel the shock that they have passed, but also in this new information. Denial will play a big role in your emotions. Quickly followed by anger. Denial and anger may plant a flag in your energy for a while. It is ok to be pissed off at the person. You feel betrayed, lied to, or made to feel like a fool for not seeing it. You may bargain with yourself, God, the one who passed, searching for resolution, but that can lead you into depression. Questioning everything you ever thought about this person. Acceptance and hope may be further down the road with a lot of speed bumps, throwing you back a stage or two in the process.

This is not the normal blog or subject I speak about often. When a subject comes to my attention several times, I meditate and ask for wisdom and the words to speak. I believe most of the inquiries are about those who chose to leave this earth before their time, but since the subject is “Grief…it’s complicated”, I decided to expand a bit, so not to leave anyone out. All situational grief is difficult. Grief is difficult.

There are no easy solutions. I do not have a quick fix or even a meditation to get rid of this in one or two settings. This may be a lifelong process of releasing. The direction, I suggest, in my experience is to seek out a good therapist or a grief group that you speak about, all the things spinning around in your head. Tell your story and release the secrets so that you do not feel as though you have to also keep quiet about what has occurred.

The truth is, death on its own is heartbreaking and grueling. In these cases, it is also problematic. The one left behind has all this new information to process. Give yourself grace and time, understanding that the actions of the deceased are not your responsibility. They will have a life review and an understanding of their wrongdoings. I believe they will have accountability either in the spiritual realm or back on the earthly plain in another lifetime.

This is my understanding. Here are some helpful things to keep in mind while experiencing complicated feeling because of this new information.

• Be prepared for a range of emotions. Recognize where they stem from. Give yourself time and grace to process.

• Find a new way to process your emotions. Join a gym, go for a walk, journal about how you feel.

• Be mindful of new relationships. Not every relationship will be the same as this one. Try not to place walls around yourself because of someone else’s actions. You are not responsible for carrying this burden.

• Remember the good stuff. Allow the precious memories you had with them to flow into your memory bank.

• Tell your story. Don’t keep it bottled up. Find a grief group or a therapist to help you work through what is spiraling out of control in your mind.

• Not all secrets are bad. If you share them, they are no longer secrets.

• Dwelling on it does not help you. It does more harm than good. Release as much as you can as many times as you need.

Orson Scott said — “Life is full of grief, to exactly the degree we allow ourselves to love other people,”

Allow yourself to show inward love in a gently, graceful way. You deserve to live the life you love and love the life you live.

Blessings,

Stacey

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Fear

Les Brown said, “Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fear”

Read that one again. That quote clicked something in my brain that said, yes, that’s it. We are living in our fear and that is what stops us from living our dreams. I seek to find clarity in why we stop living the adventurous life that we could be living. At the end of each show, podcast, email and reading I always say, “I pray you live the life you love, and love the life you live. If not change it".”

The big question is, why am I comfortable living in fear? Does it really hold us in a place of comfort? How can it, if fear places a big stop sign in front of our dreams? We have an action plan, then all of a sudden there is this tiny, doubting voice in our head saying, “where do you think you’re going? It’s scary over there and you are fine right here.” Sound familiar? We may respond by thinking, but my dream is this but I’m afraid of this outcome. Ask yourself, “What am I afraid of?”

Fear is an acronym for Fear Everything and Run or Face Everything And Rise. It makes me wonder, am I so afraid of death that I fear life? Mind-blowing right? I have a friend who dreams of seeing the world but she is so afraid of the possibility of getting into an accident. She only travels back roads and stays local. But she wants to see the world. This fear is stopping her. Do you dream of seeing your favorite artist in concert but the idea of being in a crowd makes you fearful and uncomfortable? We all have past experiences in our memory bank that can make us feel all relationships end terribly because we’ve had that experience. But your dream is to find a companion, get married and have a family. Do you live in the shadow of fear because of what someone else’s experiences? Does an illness run in your family, and your fear is that there is no escape, this illness will one day be yours as well? Being cautious, or having a plan, finding the tools to help you is one thing, but totally pulling out of the possibilities that this fate will not be yours is another thought you need to bring into your energy.

If you want to face it and rise there are steps you can take. It can be a slow process, but in the end, you will feel as though you have overcome this fear. Wouldn’t that be a great feeling? And I want to acknowledge fear is real. We can’t help it. We were basically born into fear. Think for a moment, we all were unborn babies nestled in a warm safe womb. Everything you needed was given to you. As an unborn child, you were floating in a warm space only hearing the soft muffled voices of your parents or others around them. Everything you needed was given to you by a magical cord that attached to your mother. You received food and nourishment, you didn’t need to breath because your body was being fueled by the connection of this magical cord. You were in a safe space no interference from the outside world. Then one day after 9 months of comfort, you were being pushed and squeezed down to a narrow tunnel. You’ve never been there so what is it, where am I going? Your little body is squeezed through a canal, the warmth of the fluid you once floated in suddenly is gone and there is this bright light that is foreign to your eyes. A being, a stranger pulls you out and up and cuts the only life force that you’ve known. Your body is cold for the first time and you are shaking, gasping for air, you cry and that sound is loud and unfamiliar to you. Something is touching you, wiping you off, wrapping you in something warm until finally you are placed safely in your mother’s arms. But this is a new unfamiliar connection to your life force. It’s new and you are adjusting to a lot of things in a short amount of time. When you look at it this way, it is no wonder we fear new things. The shock of the birth process although beautiful, when you look at it this way it’s like Mr. Toad’s wild ride. Although, exaggerated a bit, think about it. And when I was born, they used to slap the baby’s behind to get them to cry in order to put air in the lungs. So the first memory in this child’s life is pain. Oh my God, what have I just gone through?

I’m currently reading a book called “Fear” by Thich Nhat Hahn. In this book, he speaks about incorporating mantas into your daily life. Being mindful of others is second nature, it is putting into practice being mindful of what you need as well. To be mindful in the moment for someone you may say to them, I am here for you. Place your hand on your heart center and say to yourself, “Dear one, I am here for you.” When you care for someone the best think you can do is show up for them. Allow yourself to do the same thing for you. “Dear one, I am here for you.”

Show yourself recognition when you feel unseen or maybe you do not recognize yourself in a situation. Place your hand on your heart center and say will conviction and love, “Darling, I know you are there, and I am happy for you.” You are saying, I see you. I see you are growing or you are in there, don’t allow this situation to change who you are on the inside. “I see you, I know you are there.”

Are you suffering in silence? Feel like no one understands? Place your hand on your heart, “ Darling, I know you are suffering, that is why I am here.” This keeps you connected, validating your emotions but also saying but you are working through it. You are a miracle of life and understanding the suffering without judging yourself or others is overcoming the fear of the what if it gets worse. Instead of rushing the healing, and pushing it into a hidden part of your soul, feel it, acknowledge the feeling and offer love and compassion.

Sometimes, the feeling is more than we can handle alone. That’s ok, reach out and ask for help from a trusted friend or a trained professional. “Dear one, I’m suffering please help.” There is no shame in asking others to be your safe space.

These mantra meditations help to restore the peace and harmony within yourself. They are tools to help you overcome fear. They teach you how to defuse the ticking time bomb within yourself by inviting calmness to your otherwise frantic fear. Once you validate the fear you are beginning to heal. Add in breathing exercises to the mantras. Become fully aware of your breath and follow the flow. I know I am breathing in and out slowly. I am aware of how it feels. I am letting go of the fear as I breath in and out. Connect to the flow of the cool air entering your nostrils into your lungs as your chest expands and how it changes to warm air and your chest falls. You become aware of what your body needs. You are connecting and paying attention. All of a sudden you feel yourself start to calm down, be mindful of any tension in your body, usually the neck, shoulder, back or feet. Visualize releasing breath into these areas and you exhale any tension you may feel. Take note of things that bring you joy, how you feel. Feel that joy and breath it into the tension. Make a list of if you want and focus on the list. You are inviting joy into your energy. Ponder the thought of I feel joy as you are breathing. Recognize, even though I feel pain or fear, I also feel joy. Embrace that fear, “hello fear, anger, anxiety. I am calming my mental thoughts of you. You no longer have power over me.” Be present for you. “My darling, I did not go anywhere. I release the fear and resolve to have faith in myself and release it. I know the fear is within me, but my faith is my dreams is stronger.”

I had a client in the other day who said that she always braced for the what ifs and now she is embracing the possibilities. When you brace yourself, your body gets tense, you push back and wait for impact. But embracing, you are leaning in, inviting in the feelings of love and good intensions.

It may not all be sunshine and roses. Things may bubble up from the root cause of the feeling. Change your perception. You are no longer your fear, you have released your fear. Change the dialogue in your mind to “May I be peaceful, happy and a light within my body.” or “May I feel safe from harm or illness.” or “May I feel free from anger, jealousy, anxiety.” These are but a few ways to change your perspective. Your intension is “May I live my dream and break free from fear.”

I urge you to not miss the thousands of moments of joy in your life by dwelling in fear. You decide, living your dream or living in fear. We all should want to live the life we love and love the life we live. Kick fear to the curb and dream big my friends.

Blessings

Stacey

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Angels

I’ve been meditating and asking about subjects to speak about and as I reflect back to the most asked questions. When I notice similarities, I use those as subjects to speak about on my lives Tuesday Talks at 10:30 on my social media as well as on Connecting to Spirit podcast.

We all have our own separate experiences with Guides, Angels, Archangels and past loved ones. My suggestion is to always use your intuition of the meanings brought to you. Do not over think it.

I’m starting a series over the next few weeks about Angels, Guides, Archangels. Tonight, I’m going to break down my understanding as they how they have come to me. My goal is to guide you into the possibility and reality, that you too, have helpers around you. Their similarities and their differences. But I want to emphasize to you to not overthink it. Try not to place them in a nice neat box. Allow them to help you in the way that is for your greatest and highest good. The more you invite them in the better understanding you will have.

If you are just starting your spiritual journey, you may have some difficulty shutting off the conversation between your left and right brain. Left brain is logic and critical thinking. Where right brain is creative talent, intuition. The right brain is the one you want to allow to guide you.

Archangels are the highest-ranking angels. They have specific talents, jobs specialties. We will break those down in the next few episodes.

Spirit Guides are from the shamanic tradition. They can appear in animal, spirit or even in the form of a past loved one. A Guide or guardian angel provides guidance, protection, wisdom and support during your life journey. Spirit Guides usually once were human form and aid us in our life purpose. Guides work closely with you and are specialists in their own right. They assist us from our birth to our death.

Tonight, we are going to focus on Angels. The similarities in all of these forms are that they all communicate energetically. Because of this it can be difficult to differentiate who is around. This is why I’m doing this series. This may help the left brain (logic) have a better understanding and let its guard down in order to allow the right brain (creativity and intuition) can come forward.

Angels are great being of light that reside in the higher realm. They have never been human except Metatron who was Enoch while on the earthly plain. (I’ll explain that when we speak in-depth of Metatron)

Angels are messenger from Creator. They function from the heart center and are focused on love and compassion. If you will allow them, they will teach you a higher understanding.  Angels can change as events in your life change. Depending on what you need they will answer.

All may send signs validating they are around. Some signs can be warm tingling sensations, synchronicities such as angel number on clocks or license plates, receipt totals etc. Some can be an audible voice that you hear, a scent, visual sign, intuitive feeling, meditation and reflection, dreams, and personal experience with signs and symbols.

Angels pop up when we need to feel as though we are not alone. They are nurturing and helpful. The most common thing angels send are angel numbers. We’ve all see these but may not know what they mean. And I want to explain again, to use your intuition on what these numbers bring to mind when you see them. As humans we can over think the numbers but when you see them, what feeling are you receiving at that time? That is their message to you. There are hundreds of books on what angel numbers mean to others and you’ll notice that they don’t always agree. This is the interpretation of the author or speaker. Here are some of the meanings when you see the numbers

111 is said to say to you, use your intuition. It is the confidence or motivation for you to trust what you feel.

222 implies that you are on the right path. The right place at the right time.

333 balance of the mind, body and spirit. To me, 333 is the trinity, Father, Son and Holy Ghost which if you think about it is the mind, body and spirit.

444 is love, support, guidance and protection.

555 is for change. There is a change that is about to occur

666 means step back and rethink the direction or thought process

777 inner strength, it is a sign to slow down and take care of yourself.  Reflect on your needs at this time.

888 The balance. Pay attention to balance and harmony around you.

999 The wrap up. It is time to start a new journey.

If you look at numerology 1 is the “go-getter” it’s all about new beginnings, independence. Taking charge of the direction of who and what you want to achieve. So 111 is using your intuition and motivation and trusting it. Self-dependent and hard working.

2 mutual understanding and understanding intuition for peace and harmony

3 The trinity of past present and future. Bringing it all together for balance, almost like closure and the impact you can have in telling your story. Not just for yourself but for others as well.

4 brings a sense of stability in your life path

5 is adventurous and social

6 the mother of all number because it connects you to caring for others. You pausing to see what others may need

7 Wisdom in the search for truth

8 overcoming, infinity symbol. Feminine energy

9 completion, growth and service.

So, I just gave you a lot of information just about signs from numbers that your angels may show you. But again, what do you think they are telling you? This is just one way they bring things to your attention. If you are thinking of starting a new career you may see 555 (change is about to occur or adventurous and social.

When teaching my students about angel numbers and signs, I often tell them, don’t stop and look up what it means, yet. Stop for a minute and reflect on what you were thinking about or what is going on in their life? What did you feel when you saw this sign? That is your answer. Look it up later. Go on your intuition, feeling to find your answers.

Thinking that angels have not been in human form, all their messages are brought in warmth and love. There is nothing to fear. They are your cheerleaders and your love note that you find to acknowledge, you are not alone in this world.

There is a book called “Angels for Everyday Living” by Jacky Newcomb. She has several books “Angel Blessings”, “From Angels with Love” “I can see Angels” and many more.  In here book “Angels for Everyday Living” She speaks about feathers. This is also a common sign that angels are around you. It seems so simplistic that you would find a white feather as a message, because we all imagine angels as these beautiful being with large wing spans with an abundance of feather. It makes sense that when they are present, they would leave you a present allowing validation, they were with you. What else would it be than a feather? I have a collection of feathers that I have found in the craziest places.

While in Colorado and an intuited conference, in a shared home, I left the room that I was staying in to take a shower, upon my return there was a feather on the floor. A small, white, fluffy feather. It made me smile but at that time I was still testing my “wings” on my trust in my intuition. While getting ready for the next session, I opened my jewelry bag and inside of the bag was another small white fluffy feather. I called my husband just to make sure that he did not place it there and his response was, you’re never coming home, are you? You’ve found your answers. Of course I returned home, but I was a totally different person. I had left behind the doubt of weather I was on the right path or not.

I believe that angels will come in the form that we are the most comfortable. Feather, are comfortable for most of us. They want to bring us joy. I remember after seeing the 2nd feather, I felt the need to stop for a quick second and say thank you, please continue to send me more signs that I will understand. And that is exactly what they did and still do. Ask them to place them in unusual place so that your logical mind can not rationalize it. If you see a feather on a walking path, it’s not that unusual, but inside of a zipped jewelry bag? Mind blowing.

There are tons of people who have stated that they were in a tragic accident and came out without a scratch and they felt as thought someone was in the car with them but there was no one there. Angels. If it is not your time, they will intervene.

If you’d like to meet your angels, there are several guided meditations across many platforms. Here is what I recommend.

Find a quiet area inside or outside whichever you are comfortable. Maybe light a candle or have incense burning, use an oil so you have your senses involved. Have the intention, thought process to meet one of your angels or your team. Have a notebook close by to write down your experiences afterwards.

Take a few deep breaths, relaxing the mind, body and spirit. Visualize a garden with a bench or a beautiful tree with a bench. Whatever visual you see will be correct. See the flowers around you and the color of the sky. How the breeze feels on your skin. Go and sit on the bench and invite them to come sit with you for a minute. Maybe you see a doorway opening with light, or all of a sudden you feel something or someone next to you. Breath it in without allowing your rational side of your brain peak through. If it shows up ask it to come back later.  Take notice of all your senses, what do you see, smell, feel, hear?  You can tap the seat beside you in your mind’s eye and say, sit with me. Tell me or show me what I need to know right now. Be patient. Enjoy the wonderful energy. Then when you are ready open your eyes and journal your experience. Once you start writing more things will come. If you draw, sketch what you feel drawn to sketch.

When you are finished be sure to date the experience. And continue to practice and beautiful things will begin to ignite within your mind, body and spirit. Be sure to not them as well as you grow closer to the angels in the spirit realm.

Thank you for being a part of this series. Next week we will speak about Spirit Guides, their purpose and how they differ from Angels. We will continue each week as we talk about Archangels and talk about their which one to call in when different things happen in your life.

If this has helped you with a better understanding, share this episode with your friends. Like and share. If you have any questions, feel free to email me at connectiongtospiritwithstacey@gmail.com. I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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I pray you live the life you love and love the life you love.

Blessings for a great week filled with signs from the angels.

Stacey

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Earth School is in Session…..Soul Purpose Spiritual Path?

How do I find my spiritual path and my soul purpose? This is a question I am asked often. My answer, “where do you feel drawn? If time and money were no object what would you be doing and where would you be?” Some, instantly answer. Others remark they have no idea. They come up blank but they feel there is more for them to do.

Things to ponder, in the 24 Hour Book is a meditation that says put this into practice with faith and conviction. This is a good place to start.

“I believe that life is a school in which I must learn spiritual things. I must trust God/Source and He will teach me. I must listen to God/Source and He will speak through my mind. I must commune with Him in spite of all opposition and every obstacle. There will be days when I will hear no voice in my mind and when there will come no intimate heart-to-heart communication. But if I persist, and make a life habit of schooling myself in spiritual things, God will reveal Himself to me in many ways.” The prayer or mantra that goes hand in hand with this is, “I pray that I may regularly go to school in things of the spirit. I pray that I grow spiritually by making a practice of these things.”

Do you feel that in your soul? Does it speak to you? Let’s break it down a bit. We’ve all gone to school to learn different things. We’ve been taught to read, write, communicate etc. When we’ve completed the traditional school, now life becomes our school. We can learn new things everyday if we pay attention. Just like in a classroom setting, if you are not paying attention and participating you are not completing learning all that is available to you. Life is filled with lessons that help us to grow into who we are to become.

As children, we look up to our teachers, we trust them and feel safe. Source is the greatest teacher of all offering daily lessons, tests, accomplishments and hard lessons. We learn from our teachers by speaking with them, listening and doing home work. This comes in the form of prayer and meditation when we are learning from Source. In the silence we strive to find clarity. If you’re not hearing a guided answer, ask again in a different way. Don’t give up. Ask until you hear/know/feel the path to follow. Communicate with a faithful, truthful heart. Think about getting to know someone you just meet. You talk and listen. Sharing stories to get to know each other. Treat Spirit the same way. A few weeks ago, we spoke about shower meditation. I received several emails and comments stating this made meditation attainable. Great! Put it into practice. Every time you are in the shower, meditate. Get quiet as the water washer away yesterday and cleanses you for a new day. Imagine the water at the top of your head being a great white light connected to Source covering you in love and alignment. Take the time to get quiet. Ask. Listen. Receive clarity. Doing this everyday will help you in your search for answers and provide a connection to Source. Ask your guides and Angels to draw near to you. Ask them, “What do I need to know today?” Listen to the feeling of the answers. It may be a small voice, a vision or a feeling. And, yes there will be days when the answers don’t seem to come. Ask again? No matter what is goin on in your life, Spirit already knows. They are waiting for you to invite them in for a conversation.

Spirituality isn’t something that only certain people can attain. It is inside all of us, waiting to be invited. To awaken us to listen. This is part of the homework. Speaking of homework, what daily practices do you do each day to learn? Do you read, listen to e-books, go to lectures, listen to podcasts? Pay attention to the small things around you and have class everyday. Earth school teaches us to prepare a connection to the higher realm. Look for signs and synchronicities, ask for them and they will appear.

If you are looking for your soul purpose, your spiritual path; visualize it and make a plan to acknowledge the learning process. Nurses don’t become nurses without schooling. Once they have completed school the passion of practicing what they have been taught makes them healers. Social workers, therapists go to school to learn human traits, traumas, emotions and so much more. Their passion comes alive when sharing what they’ve learned. They, too are healers. We are all healer in some form. We’ve healed from many things that have crossed our paths. We’ve survived and learned many things. When we take it one step further and begin to help others, then we are healers. What’s your super power? Are you a good listener, writer, organizer? Are you fascinated with herbs and plant medicine? Does stone energy peak your interest? What intrigues you? Where do you feel pulled or even pushed to do? I would love to hear about it. Email me at connectingtospiritwithstacey@gmail.com. Let’s talk about where your soul is leading you. What subject can you speak about for hours that for some reason seems to come naturally to you? This is all part of who you are and what you are to become.

By making a practice of learning in earth school everyday, you are also teaching others what it takes to be you. The universe will speak to you and draw you in when you welcome in the teaching. When you pay attention and participate.

I pray I can regularly go to school in the spirit. Grow spiritually, learn spiritually and share what I have learned with the world. Let’s heal the world together, one person at a time.

Meditation and prayer can open up so many new possibilities of learning every day. Pay attention to what you are learning. Communicate with consciousness, Spirit, God, Angels, Guides, and your loved one who have passed. Ask questions believing that the answers, signs and direction will appear.

Be a faithful student in earth school. It will truly help you live the life you love and love the life you live.

Blessings

Stacey

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There are tons of people who have stated that they were in a tragic accident and came out without a scratch and they felt as thought someone was in the car with them but there was no one there. Angels. If it is not your time, they will intervene.

If you’d like to meet your angels, there are several guided meditations across many platforms. Here is what I recommend.

Find a quiet area inside or outside whichever you are comfortable. Maybe light a candle or have incense burning, use an oil so you have your senses involved. Have the intention, thought process to meet one of your angels or your team. Have a notebook close by to write down your experiences afterwards.

Take a few deep breaths, relaxing the mind, body and spirit. Visualize a garden with a bench or a beautiful tree with a bench. Whatever visual you see will be correct. See the flowers around you and the color of the sky. How the breeze feels on your skin. Go and sit on the bench and invite them to come sit with you for a minute. Maybe you see a doorway opening with light, or all of a sudden you feel something or someone next to you. Breath it in without allowing your rational side of your brain peak through. If it shows up ask it to come back later.  Take notice of all your senses, what do you see, smell, feel, hear?  You can tap the seat beside you in your mind’s eye and say, sit with me. Tell me or show me what I need to know right now. Be patient. Enjoy the wonderful energy. Then when you are ready open your eyes and journal your experience. Once you start writing more things will come. If you draw, sketch what you feel drawn to sketch.

When you are finished be sure to date the experience. And continue to practice and beautiful things will begin to ignite within your mind, body and spirit. Be sure to not them as well as you grow closer to the angels in the spirit realm.

Thank you for being a part of this series. Next week we will speak about Spirit Guides, their purpose and how they differ from Angels. We will continue each week as we talk about Archangels and talk about their which one to call in when different things happen in your life.

If this has helped you with a better understanding, share this episode with your friends. Like and share. If you have any questions, feel free to email me at connectiongtospiritwithstacey@gmail.com. I’d love to hear your thoughts.

You can listen live on Bold Brave Media every Tuesday night at 8 pm Est Connecting To Spirit.

I pray you live the life you love and love the life you love.

Blessings for a great week filled with signs from the angels.

Stacey

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Only The Shadow Knows

Today, we are going to discuss shadow work. I recently sat in a class about shadow work. I’ve done my share of inner reflection and shadow work to find out why some things trigger a side of myself that I didn’t know existed. Sometimes, I receive the answers quickly, but most time it leads to more questions and more work with my shadow. I never really understood that what I was doing was considered shadow work.

Jung describes our shadow as “the hidden, repressed for the most part, inferior guilt-laden part of ourselves”. Well, that sounds pretty yucky and something that maybe I don’t want to address but, address it, I must if I want the answers I am seeking. I have been reading a book by Nancy Levin called “Embrace Your Shadow To Find Your Light”. This sounds more like what I am looking to achieve. Her description is more approachable or me. “Our shadow is made up of all parts of ourselves that we hide, deny, suppress, and don’t see in ourselves - both positive and negative. Our shadow is all aspects that we reject out of shame, fear or disapproval.” Now, that speaks to me, this is something worth digging into. It is in all of us and it is trying to understand what we do not understand in ourselves. Whether it be a known or unknown reason from a past experience that we may reject or possibly don’t even remember. It can cause us to be angry, have a large ego, be guarded, over motivated etc. A “trigger” that is a learned trait learned out of fear of disapproval from someone. That, in some warped way, resonates with me.

When I first heard about shadow work, it seemed to denote a negative, bad or even evil part within myself. And since I did not want to believe I held any of these characteristics, I glossed over investigating what it really meant. I believe it is probably a knee jerk reaction to people when on a spiritual path. It seems eerie and unwelcomed in my energy. But in fact it would stand to explain trust issues because someone broke my trust which tends to break my spirit. Maying you were left alone a lot and the result is that you are super independent or you are super needy. Where you called lazy and so to not hold that trait, you are a workaholic? This is all a part of shadow work.

A visual they use in the book is that it is similar to the phases of the moon. The moon’s size does not change however, you only see what you can see because of the atmosphere around it or the tilt of the earth. The rest is hidden. It is still there but it is in the shadow of something. Interesting, right?! Cloud formations act as barriers of what is seen by the naked eye. We are much the same. Depending on who or what is surrounding us, can make you less vulnerable. We choose to only show others what we want them to know or see in us.

Exploring shadow work helps look deep within ourselves to see what may be hiding. We may present ourselves one way in our place of business, but a totally different way to close friends and family. Maybe you were grew up hearing, “What will the neighbors think” or you were told to be seen and not heard. Although most of our parents tried to instill great values in us, it may have also made us “people pleasers”, shy or worried about what others thought.

As we go though all of life hands us, we strive to have a better understanding of ourselves. Although that may sound a bit odd, I mean how can I not know myself? How do I get disconnected from me? Shadow work, deep inner work can help you reconnect with yourself. It can help pinpoint the trigger areas to help you find inner harmony and peace within yourself. You become aware of what you are hiding from others or yourself. You begin to surrender the control it has over you, accepting responsibility and offering grace and forgiveness. You are being truthful with yourself and replacing it with harmony by working through the triggers. The result, finding wholeness with yourself. This is all about the reflection in the mirror. What do you see and what do you want to see?

Some steps to help bring inner harmony through shadow work are first becoming aware of what you may be hiding from other or even from yourself. Why do I reject this trait within myself and can I not be venerable enough to let it be seen? Once you acknowledge it, allowing yourself to surrender the control it may have on you. Looking at this experience and accepting responsibility. Then inviting in grace and forgiveness. Standing strong in the conviction of not allowing to be placed in this position again. It takes strength to be really honest with yourself. Nourishing yourself, with the work that needs done in order to replace harmony in your life again. The result is recognizing what triggers you and having the tools in place to find wholeness in your life.

To me, it is all about reflection. Being able to look in the mirror with the confidence of who you are and who you aspire to be. Finding the understanding of the why behind the action. Changing your mindset to no longer allow you to be triggered. I like to journal my thoughts of the whys. This way is gets it out of my head, out of my energy, allowing me to breath through it. It flows from my head to my arms, to my fingers that are holding the pen to the paper. Ever say to yourself, “that sounded better in my head”? Reading your words can break the trigger. Our minds talk over us, but bringing in another sense like sight can bring clarity, Journaling may be scary. It’s the fear that someone may read my thoughts. Be brave enough to write them down, releasing the power of fear. We tend to avoid what triggers us. Ask yourself, “How can I heal from this fear?” Face it, ask about it, resolve to move through it if it pops up again. Take the power away from it and empower yourself. What is the story behind the trigger? How does it benefit me vs how does it affect my life? What would be different in my life if I were able to overcome this to the point that it no longer affected my energy? Has this given me some good qualities? If so, acknowledge them, take responsibility, replace and nourish yourself and find wholeness. Meditate on your findings to these questions and journal about the resolve you find.

This is a lifetime of experiences that may change the world around you. Investigate your spiritual energy with love, compassion, empathy and interest in the story behind it and the solutions will appear.

Life is much better when you live the life you love and love the life you live.

Blessings

Stacey

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The Words You Hear Inside Your Head

As you all know, I frequently use Angel, Oracle and Energy cards as a tool while doing readings as a Medium. As a writer, I also use cards, Storymatic cards to prompt ideas to write about in those times where my mind is all over the place and the written words gets lost from my head to my hands. They are great to expand my thought process and take my writing down paths that I may not have thought to use. When thinking of what to speak about today, I thought it would be interesting to see how using a few cards from this deck would guide my subject matter.

The cards I randomly selected are above. The order I pulled them were “undeveloped roll of film, snob, ease dropper, lighting, if only what was said could be taken back and person who will do whatever it takes.“ The gold cards are the main character and the copper cards are the story. I selected them early in the day and reflected on them all day, processing how to bring them all together to mean something I could speak about with you. All these words can be positive or misleading, depending on what they said to me. No matter what order I placed them in, I kept coming back to the subject of my higher self, regret, and pushing the reset button to connect and reconnect with my higher self. Doing a soul journey of learning, loving and sharing.

So, let’s dive into this. The ease dropper, symbolizes our guides, angels, those who have gone before us and God. The are with us, guiding our experiences in order to be the best versions of who we are meant to be. But I also have to add the aspect of the higher self. The voice deep inside, materializing our greatest potential. It is that wise being of our consciousness that is surfaces when we invite it to make itself known. As I often do, I looked up the definition of higher self. It is “space between words, the stillness that resides within all of us. A part of all aspects that transcends the ego and our personal identity. The source of wisdom, intuition and a deeper understanding of our life purpose. The great belief in yourself that realizes you are a great addition to this world.” I could not have defined it in a better way. The ease dropper pays attention to what is happening in our lives. And as in true ease dropper form, we are unaware that they are even present.

We all have this voice within ourselves, but we do we listen or are we a “snob” to what it is saying? We may find it hard to believe all the possibilities that are placed before us. We don’t trust, therefore we snub the inner voice. This is a trained trait that we have just accepted. It comes from a lack of confidence and faith in ourselves. Maybe we were not given the emotion support we needed at one time or another, therefore we lack the skills to offer this support. In our lives we are told things that we wish, “if only what was said could be taken away”. But the ease dropper was there with us, experiencing the things we have experienced. Holding us up when we felt no one else was there. The question, I present to you is, when is it enough? Is it time to let your faith grow in the good things around you or will you continue to be a “snob” to what the universe has to offer you because you are afraid? When do you pay attention to what your life can be, is meant to be? It is time to heal and allow your dreams and visions of your spiritual path to awaken. To become “the person who will do whatever it takes.” Maybe our higher self also represents that “undeveloped roll of film” the unseen things about to come into your lives that could change the legacy of you.

Let’s go back to the statement, “if only what was said could be taken away.” Maybe think of what you have allowed these words to take from you. Think of it as a greater opportunity to grow from these words. Reevaluating what they have instilled in you, of what not to do or become. Turn it around to be what you can offer others, to give, not about what you did not receive. I’m igniting a light within you that I’m asking you to allow to grown like a bolt of “lightening”. Invite your light to shine. Light is so important, to be able to see and process the unseen, just like the “undeveloped roll of film.” I realize that we want that instant gratification. We all have cameras on our phones that instantly show us the picture we snaped to remember this moment. This, of course, wasn’t always the case. We had to remember to take a camera to special events and snap photos to later have them developed. Sometimes taking days to have them. Reminiscing those moments in time that we needed to hold in our hands after someone else added light to develop the film. The photo instantly takes us back to the moments we captured by pushing a button. Was it in focus, did I forget to bring my camera? I took this photo because I want to have this event permanently printed and honored in a book that I can page through at any time, retelling the stories that surrounded the picture. Then placed in a photo album, a special addition to any bookshelf. Over 40 years ago, after my grandmother passed, I found a white shirt box from Eyerly’s Department Store (I’m really aging myself). The box was filled with old film negatives. Looking at the negatives it is difficult to see the real picture, so I took them to a local camera store and had them all developed. Most of the photos where black and white, but to look at them made me wonder about their images. I had not thought about those photos for 10 years when we moved from my house into the school. I actually stopped writing and went on a search for them. It took a little time, but I found them. As I went through the photos (most taken before I was born) I thought about the stories that these photos were to tell me. They are all a part of who I am, they hold the faces of those who have gone before me. Those who look over me. The ones who represent some of the ease droppers of my life. They are the ones who paved the path of my existence. Their wisdom and traditions unknowingly passed down through the generations to me and from me to future generations. I truly believe they would want me to be the “person who will do whatever it takes”, not only to honor them but to give back to the world around me. To somehow make it a better place for future generations to come. To hear their words in the stillness, to connect with the ease droppers and with my higher self, what a wonderful conversation that would be.

Now think about the words that surround us on a daily basis. Words come to us in different way; email, texts, news or whatever written word that connects with your eyes and from your eyes to your brain, and to your essences. These words can bring you up or punch you in the gut. The choice can be yours. I wish to show you that no matter what words are placed in from of you, you can always make it about your spiritual path for the betterment of your healing and growing process. To grow into the person that will do whatever it take to live the life you love and love the life you live.

Here’s to the ease droppers that make it impossible for us to be a snob. To be the person who will do whatever it takes, no matter what words were said that can not be unsaid but instead hit us like a lightning bold to listen to the space between the words and take that undeveloped roll of film within us giving us a great belief that we, (all of us) are a great addition to this world.

Blessing,

Stacey

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Only A Whisper Away At Bethany Beach Women’s Retreat

Dear Soul Seeker,

We invite you to embark on a transformative journey at our Only a Whisper Away at Bethany Beach Women's Spiritual Retreat. A serene weekend designed to help you connect deeply with your higher self and the divine energies that surround us. This retreat is not just an escape from the everyday hustle; it is an opportunity for profound spiritual growth, healing, and connection with like-minded women.

Throughout the weekend, we will engage in a variety of enriching activities that nurture the spirit and promote personal development. From meditative practices and Chakra work to the enchanting world of crystals and stone grid work, each session is crafted to elevate your vibration and enhance your spiritual awareness. You will learn powerful techniques for manifesting your desires and visualizing your dreams, while also exploring past life regression and the healing potential of grief work.

Imagine the warmth of community and the support of women who share your journey. As we clear blocks and channel energy, you will find solace in the collective wisdom and experiences of your peers. Embrace the nurturing environment that Stacey and her dedicated team cultivate, where you can feel safe to explore your psychic abilities and deepen your understanding of mediumship.

This retreat is more than a gathering; it is a sacred space for healing, connection, and insight. We encourage you to envision the profound benefits of this experience and how it will empower you to embrace your spiritual path and unlock the wisdom within. Together, we will create a tapestry of love, support, and transformation that will resonate long after the retreat ends.

We look forward to welcoming you to this magical weekend of discovery and connection. Watch for upcoming information.

With love and light,

Stacey and the Connecting to Spirit Team

The Last Page

Today signifies the final page in the year of 2024 book. The next time I write it will be 2025. I write this page with the reflection of what this year has brought. What I have learned, experienced and shared. Every week I give you hints and tools to enable you to live the life you love and love the life you live. I feel a passion to help the reader (the world itself) heal. Let’s recap some of the chapters/lessons we have spoken about.

Last week we spoke about the elf within ourself. The inner voice that speaks and directs you. The spiritual self that combined with consciousness can help or hinder the world around you. We’ve spoken about the road to recovery. Using the twelve steps of spiritual awakening, the twelve virtues of connection and the twelve steps of AA. All for different reasons but all connected to find new meanings around and within ourselves. I’ve given channeled messages from my guides to help you see the light within and around you. We researched the difference between meditation and contemplation. As we are doing now, we spoke about reflecting back in time to a different place in our lives to find the blessing we now have encountered. One of the most difficult subjects we spoke about was navigating grief. Acknowledging there are no set directions of how to walk through it gracefully. Remembering phrases and actions that they instilled in us while being earthbound. We took a look at the messages in our heads to differentiate who is speaking to us. It is Creator, guides, angels, our loved ones, intuition or is it stinking thinking? I tasked you with looking at how you speak and think about yourself. I gave you some hints on doing your research before having a reading. What to expect in a reading and how to prepare. We took a closer look at the Angel and Oracle cards, and spoke about Animal Spirit Guides, how to sage and activate our connection with consciousness. The ABC’s of enlightenment of our spiritual journey. Declaring our independence from the things that get in the way. Living heart centered from the inside out. Creating a vision board and manifesting that vision to reality. Looking at our life highway and our emotional blueprint. Sharing things we’ve learned to help others heal. Living in the dash of our birth date and death date enabling the ability to L.I.P. live in peace. Placing faith and love at the forefront of all decisions and actions. The first chapter of 2024 starting with speaking about the year of the dragon and this being a year of abundance from the numerology meaning of 8. (2+0+2+4=8) All of these chapters, episodes can all be read in past blogs or on my YouTube Channel.

I feel as though I came into 2024 with a clear vision to expand the message on living the life you love in order to love the life you live. With the intentions of igniting something in you to connect to the higher realm of possibilities of what the earth has to offer you. To show reassurance that that we are not alone. To love much, and be true to your unique self (past, present and future selves) But above all, the knowing that you are loved and needed. Our loved ones, guides and angels are only a whisper away and in the quiet they will offer guidance.

These talks have helped convey my passion to anyone that will hear and feel me say “you, my friend, are loved.” Ephesians 3:20 was brought to my attention last night by my husband. The passage says, “God’s power working in us is able to (carry out His purpose and) do superabundantly more than all that we dare ask or think (beyond prayers, hopes or dreams) According to His power that is at work.” This speaks to the magnitude of Creator’s “can-do” ability to exceed abundance above all that we ask and think. Not just above, not just exceeding above. Creator can do exceeding abundantly above (superabundantly) all that we think and ask.

When we adjust our spiritual mindset it reflects in our actions and thoughts. Reflecting on the past chapter, “Who’s talking to me?” the task is to pay attention to what our inner voice is saying. Do you feel a direction, or an opportunity tugging at you? Making the decision to not just contemplate this opportunity in your spare time, but to commit to meditation, manifesting, visualizing and then putting action into creating the reality of it all. Pulling the reins back on the fear of manifesting and breaking through what is in our way of being the best you. The action of declaring spiritual independence. Trusting your heart enough to live each day from the inside out. Striving to place love above all other things. Walking a daily spiritual path with tools and practices to attract connections. are Knocking on your door is Creator, spirit, your higher self. Are you willing to open the door? All great things to ponder and meditate about.

Even if 2024 was not great, reflect on what you’ve learned and how much you’ve grown. Are you ready to mark this book read and place it on the shelf? This is the last page of the year with a new book starting tomorrow. A blank slate, new beginnings. A reminder to all to L.I.P. (live in peace). Ask for superabundant blessings for this year’s chapters that are in between your dash. Be sure to share your experiences, love and abundance with others to help them live the life they love and love the life they live.

Blessings for a beautiful New Year.

Stacey

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Recovery

As I write this week’s blog, I can not believe next week is Christmas. Are you ready? I have 95% of my gifts purchased with about 1/3 wrapped. This year has gone by so quickly. It just seems like just yesterday I was speaking about the things 2024 might bring. In a blink of the eye we will soon be in 2025. It is crazy to me how fast time goes these days. I want to check in with you. Are you feeling festive or just feeling?

I was in an open forum last night with others who seek to find their soul purpose. The group is amazing. It is a safe space where we can literally discuss anything. Our topic last night was about our experiences with letting go and setting boundaries. We spoke about how difficult it is to relinquish the need to control all situations and then realizing how freeing it can be. The struggle is real. There were a few who spoke and most just listened. But I noticed heads nodding and heartfelt comments in the chat. In this safe space there is no judgement or push to speak. We are a group with a common goal. To achieve healing and to help others heal.

While the first 3 to 4 people spoke, I noticed a common theme. I’m not sure if I noticed it or if it was brought to my attention by the facilitator. The common them was they were all in recovery. The holidays can place unwanted pressures for those in recovery. There are triggers in social gatherings, or people, places and things.

The facilitator chimed in acknowledging a thought process that we are all in some type of recovery in our life. That statement awakened me to a huge aha moment. As humans experiencing life we are all in some sort of recovery. Be it addictions, grief, physical healing or emotional recovery. We are in a constant state of healing, letting go and learning to recover from something.

One of the participants put up a quote in the chat. “How well did you live? How well did you let go?” - Dali Lama

When I reflect on this year in my life, I also reflect on what I released. Why is it difficult to let go of the things that in our minds, we know, are not good for us? Why must we feel the need to hold on? To fix them? To control them? Do we want to stay in a state of flux and confusion because this is what we have grown accustomed to doing? Is change so scary due to the difficulty of walking into it in order to walk through it? I wish I had the answers to all of these questions or a guaranteed process to be able to say to you, “follow these steps and life will be beautiful and stress free.” But unfortunately, I do not have these answers.

One person said she read a quote, that I am paraphrasing. “What if we were able to move forward as though it was part of the process?” My thoughts, in the spiritual reality of all things, there is a reason for everything. We have to accept that we may not understand why at this time. This is something I say as I struggle with the reality. If I was given an answer, then I could have a better understanding. The process of moving through it would be better understood, even if I disagreed with it. I accept that the answers aren’t always freely available. So I aspire to handle these situation with compassion and forgiveness. Recognizing the truth I am given at the time of the situation. Even if I don’t completely understand the why. This is part of recovery.

There are 12 spiritual principals of recovery. They are acceptance, hope, faith, courage, honesty, patience, humility, willingness, brotherly love, integrity, self discipline and service. Things to put into place daily.

The 12 steps to spiritual awakening are seeking, questioning, self discovery, healing, integration, service to others, expanded consciousness, intuition and guidance, manifestation, mastery of conscious unity, and service.

Compare them. All similar steps that if worked help change thoughts, behaviors and relationships. Admitting there is a problem you are struggling to resolve, seeking help and making amends to live a responsible life. This is the result of the 12 steps of addiction and they are:

Admit we are powerless over (whatever the addiction) that our lives have become unmanageable. (giving up the thought that you are in control when you are not)

Come to believe in a Power greater than ourselves in order to help restore our sanity.

Make a decision to turn our will over to God as we understand the higher power.

Searching fearlessly to do a moral inventory of ourselves.

Admit to your higher Power, ourselves and others of the nature of our wrong doings.

Be entirely ready to have God remove the defects of our character.

Humbly ask our higher Power to remove our shortcomings.

Make a list and be willing to make amends.

Make direct amends to those we’ve harmed except when it would further injure.

Continue to take personal inventory and when we are wrong, promptly admit it.

Seek through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, praying only for knowledge of Creator’s will for us and the power to carry it out.

Have spiritual awakenings as a result of these 12 steps.

Look at the similarities of the 12 principles, the 12 steps to spiritual awaking and the 12 steps of AA. All with one thing in mind, living a spiritually fulfilled life, awakening, reflecting, prayer and meditation, change, growth and service. No matter the situation, we are all in some form of recovery. The holidays can be joyful or stressful. What step are you on during your recovery? Some will need repeated. Things will be released, healing will happen, boundaries will be put into place. “How well did you live? How well did you let go?” Wise words to think about on your daily journey.

We are all a work in process. I say this over and over again to myself. “I’m a work in progress.” We fall down and make mistakes. But resolve to get back up and make the adjustments needed.

Be aware that some situations are out of your control. How you handle it, is in your control. Learn through prayer and meditation, awakening to consciousness and have faith to trust the answers.

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change. (the peace of mind) The courage to change the things I can. And the wisdom to know the difference.” What a great prayer and daily mantra. Allow it to resonate in your soul as you grow and learn in your life recovery.

This will enable you to live the life you love and love the life you live (in recovery)

Blessings

Stacey

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The Elf Within Myself

Since we are wrapped up in the holiday season, I felt it fitting to use a fun symbol to compare connection to our higher self, spirit and the glistening wonderment of what we strive to awaken within ourselves. The elf on a shelf that is deep within myself.

Let’s look at why the elf is used. Mystically, the elf is often associated with nature and the unseen world. The pixies are said to dance in the moonlight from the musical sounds heard in the darkness. The notes and cords are played by the crickets and the frogs.

The elf is also associated with magical powers and supernatural beauty. I love the way beauty is described. Adding supernatural to describe beauty. Not just natural beauty but supernatural beauty. So beautiful that it is unimaginable. Beauty that brings a tear to your eyes because of the wonderment they see. A beauty that literally takes your breath away. So unbelievably beautiful that you can’t even put it into words. So beautiful that it makes you speechless. I believe this is how the spirit world will be. Beyond words like calming, peaceful, beautiful, understanding, compassionate, loving, energetic, these are a few descriptive words but, they are not enen descriptive enough. Just the thought of experiencing supernatural beauty excites me. Not only will we be given the ability to see the beauty, but we will be shown a new understanding all of our lifetime and beyond. The elf sees it all. It is a kept secret, until the appropriate time.

Being a small creature, “child friendly or appearing to children” They illustrate that we, as adults, can feel confused, lonely, trying to find our place just as we did when we were children. A connection or a reconnection with our inner child. Maybe the one you need to nurture, forgive or unleash. Do you adult too much? What do you feel when you see an elf or Santa or the magical winter wonderland? Do you revert back to a giggly, excited child, ready to grab a sled or jump in a sleigh with a beautiful horse pulling you through the glistening snow? I get so peacefully excited at the thoughts of all these things.

The message behind the elf is to promote kindness, staying positive and upbeat, valuing and appreciating others. The elf on the shelf pops up in different areas of your home in order to report back to Santa on your behavior. But the big message is that it is never too late to be removed from the naughty list. What a great way to instill in our children that we can all change. You can always make adjustments where needed to right the wrong. You can always start over, learn what to do and what not to do.

If you watched the movie “Elf”, Buddy talks about the Elf code.

Here is the code:

Treat every day like Christmas

There is room for everyone on the nice list.

The best way to spread Christmas cheer is singing loud for all to hear.

In this code you are bringing into your awareness that every day is magical, there is good in all of us and raise your vibration. Think in positive ways, help those in need, and share your love with others. The morals of the elf are to walk into the knowing that your acts and choices can impact many lives you connect with every day. To give yourself permission to not be afraid to be yourself. To not take others for granted and above all spread love and connection. Is your inner elf hidden or are you in full elf armor?

I read that the word elf is self without the “s”. The “S” means separate from spirit, separation from peace. The elf in us can bring us back to the point of reconnection to our higher self, the magical knowledge within.

The elf theory is one of spiritual growth to bring reignite love, fun and adventure. Have you disconnected with your inner elf? Why is it such a tug of war for everyday people in choosing to help or hinder others? The elf can also be associated with ego. The good elf on one shoulder and bad elf on the on the other shoulder, the one with selfish ideas.

The cool thing to remember is there is always room on the nice list. The elves are constantly working, building toys or as the Keebler elves; always making cookies. We are all a work in progress. We never stop learning.

Let your inner elf out, be magical, see the supernatural beauty in your life, build lasting relationships, be kind, have fun and spread joy for all to hear.

Have a blessed holiday season,

Stacey

A Channeled Message

I’ve long since changed my heart and thoughts about life and healing. I frequently ask my guides to direct me to learn. Today, I felt the need to channel a message from them to place thought provoking possibilities in your soul in the most loving way. I want you to pause for a moment and be present with me. Know that when I say you are important and loved, these words not only come from me but also from the universe. I feel as though this isn’t said enough in a sincere way, but this comes from the deepest part of me. I want you to really you to feel this deep within your soul. There is nothing you can’t do if you really feel passionate about it.

Channeled message: Dear ones, life has been given to you to experience. Now, some of those experiences are good and some not so good, but they are all a part of your growth. Each sunset and sunrise are meant for you to see. But when you look, also feel it and breathe it in. Experience it, in all it’s beauty, color and movement. It rises and sets just for you. Each and every tree and flower has bloomed for your eyes to behold. See them, feel them, know it to be true. You’ve heard the saying that if Creator took the time to place a light on an insect, just think of the things that will be done for you. So much is in store for you to experience. Have you lost your light? We (guides and angels) are here to help you turn it back on. You have a choice of how bright it shines. We have not gone quiet. You have become too busy and too loud in your mind that it is difficult for you to listen. In order for you to hear us - you must get quiet and ask. The answer may be faint but you will hear it. Acknowledge it, and the volume will increase. We send you signs, do you overlook them because you are too busy? We ask you to slow down and become present. Think of a time you were guided angelically. A time that is so mysterious that it is obvious that it was not received or given by humanity. See the moment, you know the one. It has appeared in your mind’s eye. Remember how it felt? Maybe a tingle or a wave of energy ran through your body. A smile and peaceful feeling that it will all work out. This can happen more and more. Ask, Listen and Acknowledge us. We have been with you through many lifetimes. Some you remember, but most you have forgotten. We want you to see, feel and experience the most high phases and levels of love in order to gain wisdom. The key is not to keep it to yourself but to share it with others. If kept inside it is because you are afraid, you have not truly learned to trust yourself with the insight we provide. Journey deep into your soul and find the reason you do not trust yourself. Why do you live in fear? We will lead you to where you need to be. We invite you to be open to the belief of your journey. You will do great things. No matter the magnitude of how large or small they are, all are important. Always be open to learning and being and doing and trusting the process. We will speak through you if you allow us. Find your truth in the quiet times. Set your intentions to connect to the higher forms of yourself. All your past, present and future selves. Why have you disconnected? Take time to reflect on the disconnection that unplugged your light from standing in the truth of inner peace. We want you to find it again beloved. We are here.

This is the message I was given to share with you. I know this time of year can be difficult but it can also be magical when seen through the eyes of our inner child, through the small ones around us. Reconnecting with family and friends, both earthbound and spiritual energy. See it, experience it, and invite it in.

Let’s get quiet for a moment. I’d like to guide you through a meditation to reconnect you to your higher self. (you can listen to the replay on social media) Relax and close your eyes. Acknowledge this time of quiet. This special appointment you have with yourself. It is an important meeting that you do not want to miss. You are showing up for yourself. To reacquaint with you. Close your eyes and slow your breathing down. Slowly be aware of nothing else but your breath. Say either out loud or to yourself, “higher self come close to me.” Feel the warm tingles run through your entire body as you relax and connect to your higher self. Come closer higher self, sit with me for a moment. I’ve made time to connect with you. Closer, come closer. Continue to breathe slowly relaxing the mind and body. You may see a light swirl in your mind’s eye; welcome it in. Breathe slowly. Connecting, getting quiet, preparing to listen. Place your hand on your heart. Draw them into your heart center. Come closer to me. Invite not only your higher self, but also Creator, Angels, Guides and loved ones on the other side. I invite you to gather around me. Breathe. Take one hand and place it on your navel area. Feel your stomach expand and retract with each slow breath. In this space resides all of your ancient selves. Your all knowing part of you. Your gut and your heart are where your instincts reside and they know what is the highest good for you. It is because it is bread into your DNA. A woman instinctually taps into the needs of other, they nurture the ones around them. A man instinctually feels the need to protect and provide for those around them. You have the ability to tap into these sacred spaces for wise wisdom. You know what to do. You are she (he) and she (he) is you. Look into your spiritual eyes and reconnect. Ask them to come closer. Feel into the energy that is uniquely you, a combination of the you from the past, the present and the future you to come. As you connect, reach your hand out and place it in their (your) hand. Take a deep breath and ask, “Higher self, what do I need to know right now?” Listen, continue to connect with your breathing and with your higher self. Trust the message you receive. Take as long as you need, and when you are ready, open your eyes and journal your experience.

How was that? Did you see yourself, re-introduce yourself? What did you feel, hear or see? Acknowledge and journal as much as you can remember. If you were not able to reconnect, rewatch the episode until you do. Practice inviting your higher self to come closer. All your past selves to come closer. Find peace, see peace and feel it with your entire human existence. Journey back to your soul, your guides, angels, consciousness or loved ones who have passed. Ask them questions and listen or recognize the signs they bring forward. Acknowledge and thank them. Journal every detail.

Life is here for you to experience each sunrise and sunset. You don’t want to miss it. Realize you are loved and not alone on this journey.

Authentically unlock your value and path. Practice living the life you love and loving the life you live.

I’d love to hear about your experience. Drop me an email at connectingtospiritwithstacey@gmail.com

Blessings

Stacey

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Meditation vs Contemplation

I’ve recently finished reading a book by Dr Brian Weis “Same Soul Many Bodies”. This book dives deeply into past life regressions as well as progressions. Taking a deep journey into your past life as well as the possibility of future lives to come. It’s quite interesting to me to see how the butterfly effect is such a part of our existing lives but also past and future lives to come. It brought a whole new thought process to the progression of the sins of our father. Anyway, that is a totally different blog that I will explore at a later time.

Dr Weis quoted Robert Thurman “I am daily making myself what I am.” I absolutely love quotes that slap me on the face with a new way to look at life. This quote says a lot in only a few words. It made me think of my favorite fairy tale Alice in wonderland quote, “I could tell you my adventures beginning from this morning,” Alice said “but it’s no use going back to yesterday because I was a different person then.” Both of these quotes allow us the opportunity to see how we change, but how do we acknowledge the changes? He dedicated an entire chapter to this thought.

I ask you if you realize there is a difference between contemplation and meditation? So closely interlinked but performed two different ways. Contemplation includes the thought process of the mind. The mind brings in strategy, forethought, past experiences. A path that can twist and turn into several conversations in the brain. Concentrating on a specific thought or idea.

Meditation requires the mind to find the quiet in order to visualize and be open to inviting the answers to appear in our mind’s eye. Our higher self reaches out to the realms of help for guidance. I talked about a vision I had and what it meant to me at the time in an earlier blog. (feel free to go back and read it) Profound awareness in the quiet pause of breath. This is meditation.

Meditation takes practice to fully release the chattering of the mind. You can do it, don’t give up. I’m going to guide you in a few meditations later. The mind is not easy to shut down. We are accustomed to contemplating, thinking, doing. It is difficult to just be without out doing something. Learning to turn the volume of the mind down so your soul can come forward. Our mind is our own private hyper active child running around in a playground. You may laugh at this analogy but it fits, doesn’t it?

Let’s reconnect with most loving part of you. If it seems scary, just think of it as going for a visit. Allowing this vulnerability plants the seed to grow, till it will automatically show up. Your higher self has always been there, but it’s hard to hear with all the chatter in your head. In the quiet it appears in the most loving way.

If you are one who believes you cannot meditate because of mind chatter (contemplating?) let’s slow down for a minute for a quick meditation. (You may want to record this so you can listen instead of trying to meditate while reading.) Close your eyes, relax your body, take 3 slow deep breaths. Pay attention to the coolness as the air enters your nostrils, notice the air changes to warmth as you exhale out your mouth. Just be aware of the coolness in and the warmth out. Acknowledge the feeling of the air. Ready? Eyes closed? Relaxed? Breathe in 2,3,4 hold 2,3,4 exhale 2,3,4,5,6 Again breath (cool) 2,3,4 hold 2,3,4 exhale warm 3,4,5,6. Cool in 2,3,4 hold 2,3,4 warmth, 2,3,4,5,6 You did it.! Open your eyes. How did you do? This is a quick meditation you can do anywhere, anytime you need when you want to escape frustration or chaos. As you do this start to notice the motion of your chest rising. When you are aware of the sensations, it aids in also quieting the chatter.

One meditation will not make you a master meditator but it starts the process of clarity. When you contemplate you think about the subject matter; the good the bad and the ugly. Contemplation is the mind’s negotiator, doer, strategist. Mediation is clarity to a solution allowing guidance to appear.

Let’s practice a mediation with the intention of finding clarity of a situation. For an example, let’s focus on wanting to bring more love and joy into your life. Use those words in place of breathe 2,3,4. So it will be love (inhale) 2,3,4. embrace it 2,3,4. joy 2,3,4,5,6.

Ok, let’s try. But let’s set it up for you first. I want you to think about something that brings you joy what make you feel loved. Bring it in. Feel it. What is it? How does it feel? Really feel it? Take it in and remember that feeling. Now as if you were holding that feeling in your hands bring it to your heart. Place your hands on your heart. Slow your breathing down. Close your eyes. Breath in coolness and that feeling into your nostrils then hold it, and exhale the warm love to others and all around you. Breathe in love 2,3,4 hold on to it 3,4 exhale joy 3,4,5,6. Inhale love 2,3,4 hold on 3,4 exhale joy 3,4,5,6. Continue a few more times. No thoughts but love 2,3,4 embrace 2,3,4 joy 2,3,4,5,6. Notice any tension in your body as you continue. Feel it? Beautiful. Breathe light into that area on the exhale. Sending loving light and feel it release. You are doing great. 2 more times inhale love 2,3,4 embrace 2,3,4 send joy 3,4, 5,6 love, 2,3,4, embrace 2,3,4 joy 2,3,4,5,6. When you are ready open your eyes. How did you do? I bet you did fabulous. Even if there were mind interruptions you still did great and I am excited for this new adventure for you.

I’m showing your examples of the possibilities and giving you a few prompts on how to begin. The meditation can be about anything or nothing at all. There are guided meditations available on several platforms. Davidji, search him on google, read about his journey. His story is very interesting. Try some of his meditation. See how they feel. Sample several meditations and find ones that feel right within your energy. If you like and subscribe to Connecting To Spirit With Stacey You tube channel, you’ll find two guided meditations there. One guides you to meet your loved one on the other side and the other guides you to unload the baggage of the past.

Cool right, “but Stacey”, you maybe asking, “What does it mean when someone says they want to meditate on something before making a decision? Isn’t that really contemplating it?” What a great question. My answer is yes and no. Again, when you contemplate your mind is involved for strategy. Meditations are allowing the door to open to allow answers appear. You must get out of your head and connect with consciousness.

Here is an example of what I am talking about. Before you meditate, set the intention for solutions to appear that you may not have already thought about. Call in Creator, your guides, Angels, loved ones who have passed.

Let’s try. Think of something you need help with. Got it? Close your eyes. Breathe, place your hand on your heart like we did before and ask or say I need help in this situation (explain it in one sentence). I am unable to resolve it. I invite you in as I know you have the answers to my questions. Show me where to start. I trust you have my wellbeing in mind. Show me what is best for my higher good and the higher good of those involved. I trust the path. If I miss something, I trust you will show me again. (This is your intention before you mediate) Use these words or your own words. After all you are asking your guides and your higher self for direction, and they know you best.

Deep breath in, hold, release. Relax. Deep breath in hold release. Remember from before breath in love, embrace, release love. Visualize a white light at the top of your head almost like a funned up to the universe pouring warm joyful, loving, light onto you from those you’ve invited in . Good, relax, breathe, embrace, release. Take that light to the innermost part of your heart and you continue to breathe slowly. Feel it, embrace it. You may see swirls of light in your mind’s eye, don’t question it just be within. Breathe, embrace, release. Beautiful, you are doing great. Trust that the answers will appear. Exhale, trust, breathe. Ask for signs and ideas from the higher realm for the good of all. Relax open, shh embrace, release. Trust that the path will appear at the divine time. Relax, inhale loving warmth, embrace, release joyful grace. Feel the warmth of their love and guidance around you. If your mind wonders acknowledge it for later thinking and come back to full release and relaxation. Breathe, beautiful, calm, love, solutions, embrace understanding release, accept and trust. Breathe a few more times as I get quiet with you…Breathe, thank them, ask them to continue to show you even after this time in meditation. Trust, ask them to show up with signs of comfort and guidance. Breathe, hear them, see them and then thank them. A few more breathes…start to wiggle your toes and fingers. Good. Breathe. Move your head from side to side. Breathe. Move your shoulders as you slowly come back. When you are ready open your eyes.

How did you do? Did you see anyone or anything? Do you feel a bit better about the situation at hand? Find peace, or a bit of clarity? Grab your journal and start writing without thinking what thoughts are coming.

All the answers may not have full appeared but they will with practice. The kicker is, that you may not be ready for the answers, so keep that in mind as well. If you go to Bold Brave Media, Connecting To Spirit podcast, you can subscribe and save the episode about mediation. This enable you to rewatch and practice. It can help you on your path. Share it with someone you know could benefit from meditation not just contemplation.

I’m sure you did great. This is a just a start in the right direction of not only connecting to the higher realm but also to your higher self. The answers are all inside of you. Take the time to slow down and listen for clarity. Slow the mind down and stop the tug of war between the right and left brain. Disconnect from the strategist and the guide will appear.

Robert Thurman “I am daily making myself what I am.”

Clarity can start with one slow deep breath to guide you to live the life you love and love the life you live.

Blessings

Stacey

A Vision With an Underlying Meaning

This will be a different type of blog than you are used to reading from me. I’d like to share a vision with you. I don’t always share these but felt it was important for your growth. It is an example of how meditation and visions in your mind’s eye can give you exactly what you need, even if you don’t realize it at the time.

I talk about self care quite often. I preach on the importance of dedicating time for yourself. Lately, I have not been listening to my own advice. For the last few years I have had a monthly massage. My schedule got a bit out of control, so these scheduled days went to the wayside. I finally made time to schedule a massage. I wanted to give the day all of my attention. Before I arrived, I meditated and asked for vital information from my guides. I felt slightly disconnected with myself. The feeling of being overwhelmed and out of balance. I was in search of direction, to reconnect with my path. I was open and ready to receive instructions, so to speak.

I climbed aboard the massage table, concentrating on my breathing and my intentions. The vision started almost immediately and came to a close at the end. I remember thinking that I would need to research the symbols, but my guide questioned me as to why I felt the need to research what I knew. I intuitively understood the meaning and meditated on these impressions. After two weeks, I did research the symbols in order to explain them. My intention was heard loud and clear and I want to share it with you. I will try to paint the vision to as much as possible so that you too can see the insight I received. If this vision also speaks to you then this message was meant for you as well.

The room was peaceful with the scents of lavender and a citrus/rose aroma. The music, Gregorian Monks chanting which added to the vibration and energy of the session. I had asked to receive a message to empower me to know the changes and growth I needed to make. I slowed my breathing down by taking in several deep cleansing breaths. As the massage started, simultaneously, I saw swirls of yellows, reds and blues come into view. I know my chakras are aligning and I invite in the light.

Mixed in with the colors, an endless stream of faces pop in and out of my mind. I have been working on quieting the mind and I was able to just witness what was about to unfold without my mind chattering. I wait and watch a bit, welcoming them all to just be with me. Then an Aboriginal man comes forward along with two elephants. He points, directing me to climb aboard the one in the back. I ask where we are going. He says nothing. I ask why are we on elephants? Again, he says nothing. He is mounts the first elephant waiting for me to climb upon the second one. I am to follow him. We travel for only a few seconds and I ask his name to which he answers Jacob. I smile to myself, and answer “Jacob? That doesn’t seem very aborigines. To which he snap his head around, puts his finger up and said, “Silence!”

Let’s look at the symbols so far: His being Aboriginal symbolizes the connection to animals, plants and nature. It is also a connection to the ancestors, clans, family, life and the land. They represent a guiding force in the significance community life roles and responsibilities. All things are connected. It is oneness, belonging, connectiveness with your deep innermost feelings. The two separate pachyderms with woven blankets symbolize strength, power and memory. They are know to remove obstacles and clear the path. They offer wisdom, luck and prosperity. They stay with the same herd for life representing family circle, ancestorial connection. Being a cosmic creature, they carry the world on their backs. With just these two symbolic images, I know something amazing is emerging.

As we travel in silence he points to all the beauty around me. I felt as through he was acknowledging how much I have overlooked the small things of beauty. I was to slow down and pay attention. This would also be the reason we traveled in silence. I was to not only take in the visions, but also the sounds and scents of the “forest like” path we were on.

He stopped at the edge of a cliff and motioned me to dismount. I hear telepathically that we are at the cliff of many stones. He motions me to stand on the edge, he raises his hands and a warm light streams from his fingertips surrounding me in light. Small pebbles and stones begin to fall from my body. I can hear the cracking of the rocks that surround me as more fall away. Large and small stones start to trickle off my back and arms rolling down my fingertips to the ground. Replacing what once was covered in stones, I am now covered in golden light. I close my eyes and tilt my face towards the sun. I could hear the stone continue to leave my body as the sun’s warmth placed it loving rays upon my face. When I heard the last stone fall, I opened my eyes. I was directed to find the waterfall and then Jacob was gone. I had no idea what direction to go. I verbalized that I could not do it alone. I heard his booming voice say he disagreed, and that I knew where to go.

Let’s look at the symbology before continuing with the vision. Standing on the edge of the cliff of many stones means being in a very risky or vulnerable position. It is a crucial moment in time where a decision must be made. Even though going through a rough spot you are headed towards victory. The steep drop off is a precarious situation. I recognized the stones represent the heavy workload of projects and responsibilities I had created that needed to fall away. I was being called to release the large stone “walls” around myself. I needed to trust that thing would be lifted and resolved.

Interesting, what can be seen with our eyes closed and our hearts open. We receive messages that we overlook, just as I had overlooked the beauty that surround me. Let’s go back to the vision. I remember I felt tasked to find this waterfall. I felt alone and lost. I knew Jacob was with me but he was within my sight guiding me on the path. I continued, I felt anxious, almost spinning around in circles thinking I don’t know where to go or how to find the waterfall. I felt his stern but calming voice, “look and you will see”. I reflected back to our silent trek to the cliff of many stones. The things I had overlooked for so long. I stopped, took a deep breath and a condor was circling above me in the sky. I felt as though to show me the way. (side bar: I’ve been drawn to Thunderbirds for quite some time. I did not realize, in the spiritual world Thunderbirds and Condors are one in the same.) I looked up and followed the path of the condor. I started to hear the rush of water, the scent of water, the feel of water. I was noticing what I had missed. Then waterfall appeared. It was unlike any I had ever seen. Not only did the water flow downward but it also sprayed up from the ground with wet cobblestones leading from one side to the other. I felt pulled to cross to the other side. Keeping my footing so not to fall. It seemed vital that I must not to fall into the water. As I touched each cobblestone, the water was warm and felt as though it was cleansing away all the mistakes, worries and doubts of my earthy quest. I remember the sweet fragrances that surrounded me. The water, somehow felt as though it were coating me in protection. I felt safe and at home. Once on the other side, I turned my face again to the sun. I felt as though I began to rise. I felt a unity of guides, angels, and spirit around me.

Looking again at symbolism, The waterfall is the process of letting go, cleansing. It is to be able to release negative thoughts that pulsate through the mind, body and soul. The washing away so to speak. It is also said to be a reminder of God’s faithfulness and protection, absorbing prayers and bringing in good medicine with rebirth. The power of the water harnesses and generates electricity, energy. Water is always ready to change to adapt itself. It creates and transforms around what it touches. The other big symbol for me, is being guided by the condor. This large powerful winged animal is associated with the sun and is believed to rule the upperworld of the sky and future. It is the path of the heart, intuition and feminine energy. The condor emerges for a higher vision, purification and spiritual guidance bringing transformation to seek a higher perspective, an understanding from a higher, yet adjacent view.

As the massage was coming to a close I felt the part of me that had risen above my body, it started to float back down into the body lying on the table. Although, I was instructed to trust the message, I did ponder it for about 2 weeks before looking into the symbols. This was such an amazing feeling of have been cleansed from the earthly worries and issues. Being shown the grace to allow the struggles to float away. The things that have been intruding into my head placing a block in my path. I was given permission to my earthly self to allow them to fall away at the cliff of many stones. I was given a better understanding of my soul journey. I know I am safe and not alone. I am to seek a higher vision and version of consciousness, connectiveness that will enable my soul’s continued transformation. The map is inside of me, the condor will lead me.

My energy has been cleansed as I await further guidance from the condor and Jacob. The new guide assigned to me, force me to be quiet, to trust and notice the beauty around me.

God hears my prayers and in time I will know what i need to know. Until that time, I will allow the silence in to help me find the clarity of the things I must disregard. The worries of the world are not mine to carry on my back. I am to share this experience with other in order to help them on their journey.

Blessings

Stacey

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If you’ve had a vision with a message, I’d love to hear about it. Email me at connectingtospiritwithstacey@gmail.com

Reflect

“Reflect upon your present blessings - of which every man has many - not your past misfortunes of which all men have some.” - Charles Dickens

Today we are going to spend some time talking about present blessings. The things we are grateful for today. Placing our focus on today. Steering away from the mistakes of yesterday. Being in the here and now helps us learn to focus on being present. Dwelling in the past declares defeat before our feet hit the floor in the morning. From the moment you wake up and step out of bed resolve to also get out of your head. Replace it by getting into your heart.

I have spent time in my head and time in my heart. I choose to try to live each day in my heart. I’ve learned that my head remind me of all the mistake I have made. While my heart shows grace, love and compassion for the lessons I had to learn. My head thinks in strategy and defense, while my heart just shows up for sending and receiving. There is a big difference in the way this sits in my body’s energy. How much different would our world be if we all chose to allow our heart to show up? The words clarity, unity and acceptance come to mind.

The very first word in the above quote is “reflect”. I tend to reflect at the end of the day. I think about and ask myself questions. What was the worst part of the day? Reflect… What was the best part of the day? Reflect… What could I have done better? Reflect… What did I learn today? Reflect… Remember, you are reflecting not dwelling. This should take no longer than 20-30 minutes, if that. If it takes longer, you are standing in judgement of yourself, which can lead to a tailspin in your head. You begin to dig yourself into a hole that can be hard to recover from. Thoughts that will keep you up at night. Reflect on present memories of things that went well, and the changes you can make to be better.

Now let’s dig into not only present memories but the memories of those who have passed. A lot of my clients comment on what they wished they had done. Dwelling on what you should have done defeats the memories of the actual experiences you had. After they pass, there is nothing you can change. Instead, turn that energy to the fond memories of what you accomplished together. The reason behind the book “My Head Knows…But My Heart Still Hurts” was to aid in creating a memoir of your life with them. Reflecting on the things they taught you. How, because of them, you are a better person.

We all make mistakes every single day, but there is good in all of us. Think about what you have accomplished, survived or created. Set your mind to think about the positive happy times. At my Father-In-Law’s funeral there was so much laughter. He was loved by so many people and they all wanted to share their Jerry stories. He was such a great and honorable man but his sense of humor and the way he could tell a story was a gift he was well known. He could draw you into the story so deeply, that you actual felt as though you were there. On a sad day, his life stories filled the room with laughter. We all reflected on his corky sense of humor. I know this made him happy to see all his family and friends reflecting on the happiness he brought us through his life. I learned a lot from the man who raised my husband. I even had the courage to speak at his funeral. I remember hearing story after story, and they warmed my heart. I was so thankful for the man he was because he taught my husband to be the man his is today.

Reflect.

Reflecting on my day, week, year or on my life, I do see my mistakes, but I focus on the growth. I’m no longer that person, but I am how I am because of that person I used to be. Who I was last year, last month, heck yesterday is different from the person I am today and tomorrow I will be a new version of myself. I reflect on how far I’ve come and how much I have yet to learn.

Reflect.

Seek out the blessings, even in the chaos. There is a cliche that goes, “count your blessings”. But, I wonder how many of us actually do. Promise yourself to place this habit into your daily life. Live through the heart and not in your head. I could easily spin out of control thinking about how I could have been a better mother. I’m not making excuses, but I was a different person then, with different responsibilities and struggling an array of things. I was different, my world was different, and the entire world was different. If I were to oscillate all the things I’ve done wrong, then I would be discounting the success and the growth my children have accomplished. They turned out great in spite of my short comings. They have each struggled with what life gave them, but they figured it out. And for this, I am so proud of them. I have instilled in them that I am only a phone call away and I will move earth and sky to help them. Funny, as I finished that sentence, my phone rang and one of my kids asked if I could pick up one of my grands at school who wasn’t feeling well. Of course, I break free from this blog to retrieve them from school. They are the forefront of why I want this to be a safe world from them. Even after all my mistakes, they know I will always be there for them and I strive to lead with love.

If you feel defeated or that the world is against you, I ask you to try to dig deep into your heart and find what you are grateful for today. Start with the small stuff If the big stuff seems unreachable. You can use these as an example until you find your own. You woke up. Maybe your coffee was exceptionally tasty. You left early thinking you needed gas but found you had a full tank and leaving early in the rain gave you a parking space upfront. The rain is such a blessing after a long dry spell and the last few days have been unbelievably nice even though it is the beginning of November. All these things may seem meniscal but they are blessings that are easily noticeable, even on the toughest days. Instead of being critical, my mindset is peaceful and I feel a change in my core just by searching these things out.

By practicing these few exercises, I reflect on the good things God has presented to me. With the calling I have been given, I strive to be able to help people process death. It is at the surface of my every day life but in this I also have been shown many blessings from the things I have learned from Spirit. These are the things I am able to share with my clients. These lessons evolve around the things we struggle with in their death. They have a greater understanding of their life. They do not wish for us to have regrets. There life does not end in their death. It continues to be kept alive in the memories we have of them. They are so very grateful that we are part of their story. And they will send us signs and guide us on our path. These are blessings they offer us.

We spoke last week about grieving a difficult relationship. Ponder this for a moment, maybe we can work on being grateful for the relationship because it taught us what not to do. Maybe, before we were brought into this world we said we would rather go through this than have someone else experience it. I don’t know, it is just a way of putting it into perspective when we question why these things happen to us.

Reflect, acknowledge, find gratefulness.

“Reflect upon your present blessings of whichever one has many- Not your past misfortunes of which all have some.” - Charles Dickens

The choice, the action belong to you. Live in your head or live in your heart. Take this small step and it can help you to live the life you love and love the life you live.

Blessings

Stacey

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